5 Ways to Find Peace of Mind in Tough Times

Updated: April 7, 2020
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The saying goes “there is always light at the end of the tunnel.”

What the saying does not take into account is the journey between where you are and the end of that tunnel. Tough people do last through tough times, but they don’t have to do so without help.

If you, or anyone you know, is going through some tough times, here are some tips to help find some peace of mind till the situation is resolved.

Accept the Circumstances

Something must have happened to put you in this current state of mind. 

There are a lot of such things, and we cannot even begin to list them here. Be it the death of a loved one, a broken heart, loss of investment, sickness, or any other thing, you need to accept it first.

Being in constant denial will hurt you more than it helps you. You will keep setting the wrong expectations of how you expect things to be and only hurt yourself the more along the way. If you can accept the situation as it is, though, you will start yourself on the path of getting out of it.

Likewise, acceptance helps to make sense of a tough situation. More often than not, doing so takes a huge burden off of your neck.

Trust Yourself

Do me a simple favor:

Take a pen and paper, and list out the major challenges that you have faced as far back as the last ten years. Take all the time you need to do that too.

If there is one thing that I can promise you right now, it is that you will forget some of the biggest challenges you have faced in that timeframe.

The reason for that is not because you consider them less of a challenge. It is that the problem has now been solved and you don’t see it as something so serious anymore.

Looking back at how you felt when the challenge first reared its head, I can bet you were in such a mood as you are now too. With time, though, you were able to get things back to normal again.

If that tells you anything, it is that you have to trust yourself to get out of the current bind too.


Open Up

It is said that a problem shared is half-solved, and that holds a lot of truth in it.

Holding things in will only make the matter worse than it already is. You will be the only one dealing with it and might not even be in the right frame of mind to make the needed, clear-cut decisions. 

Get rid of all that by opening up to someone you can confide in.

When you open up, a variety of things follow. They can include all or part of the following:

  • You instantly feel a sense of relief from unburdening yourself. Of course, the problem itself remains, but you don’t feel as though it is burdening you the same way anymore
  • You get actionable advice that you might not have even thought of from the person you opened up to
  • You get access to resources that could help you solve the problems

Looking at that list, isn’t that something you would want for yourself too?

The best part is that you now have someone who understands the problem alongside you. They will form a support system for you and help you to stay strong throughout these times. Best of all, they will be in the best place to call your attention to potential mistakes/ problem-solving plans. 

In short, you have set something in motion to better your situation already.


Every life journey isn’t smooth.

I won’t start making examples here, but I bet you have heard your fair share of stories about people who had it rough but came out on top. This is not me trying to justify your tough times, but showing you that you can make the best of it too.

A series of events might have led to what happened. Likewise, the steps you are putting in place to get out of your current situation are trial-by-error. On the way to getting better, you will equally meet a series of obstacles that you have to workaround.

All of these steps require you to build up knowledge and skills that you didn’t even know you needed. On top of that, this buildup has to be intentional yet passive. As you progress through the metaphorical tunnel and towards the light, make sure you see everything as a learning process.

By the time you come out, you would have been a better person for it. Better-equipped, and never going to fall into such a situation ever again.


Give yourself Time

Time might not heal a bullet wound to the brain, but it works wonders for most things.

Don’t rush things at this stage. If you do, you might give yourself some unreal expectations which you might fall short of. That will only inform a new wave of depression for you, and that is not needed at this stage.

Like every other good thing, this will take some time. Don’t beat it – just flow with it, and you’ll surely get better.

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